One Small Habit to Receive More

Last year, I shared how surprisingly hard it is for me to receive gifts - and since then, so many clients have told me they feel the same way. A lot has shifted for me since that post, and I’m excited to tell you about a new insight that could really support you, too.

Discomfort with receiving is directly related to how much we are capable of holding. Think of it like your lung capacity - you can only possibly breathe in the amount of air your lungs will hold. Prosperity is similar in that you can only hold onto the amount you have healed. If externally you say: "Of course I want more… wealth, health, love!" but internally you don't believe yourself worthy, gifts will slip through your fingers in the same way that the majority of lottery winners inevitably spend all winnings in just a few years. They weren't energetically capable of holding onto what they'd received, so they lost it. 

If you've worked with me, we've focused a lot of attention on how to handle those pesky unexpected expenses. It's easy to become frustrated by them, but focusing our attention on them diverts our attention away from the unexpected gifts we're receiving all. the. time.

Let me give you a few examples. This is a rundown of unexpected gifts I've received just in the last few days:

• A subscription order renewal resulted in both a full refund and receiving the product anyway
• A gas stop rang up for $.30/gallon less than advertised
• Three different restaurants provided discounted or free drinks
• Two tickets to a suite-access concert, with food and drinks fully covered
• Parking for 5 hours in prime concert parking without paying (faulty app) and not getting a ticket / towed
• Used an expired Black Friday discount code on Cyber Monday and… voila! 

So if you’re reading this and realizing you're focusing more on how life is life-ing you than the gifts that are surely pouring in, unrealized - here’s your invitation: track those unexpected gifts. They don’t have to be huge or monetary in nature. It might be a genuine compliment or an extra hour in your schedule that you didn’t anticipate. Notice them. Name them. Let yourself feel the truth that you didn’t need to “earn to deserve" and you don’t have to pay them back.

Over time, this simple practice rewires your nervous system to tolerate more prosperity. You begin to recognize that life has been more generous than you realized and that you are, in fact, capable of receiving even more. Because whatever we consistently focus on, we invite more of. 

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Ready to improve your relationship with money because what you’ve been doing just isn’t working? Starting in January, I’m creating a space for ongoing group support around money—live calls, simple practices, and encouragement as you go. You’re welcome to stay connected with me on Facebook and LinkedIn!